Friday, October 20, 2006
Soal Perselingkuhan, Lelaki Lebih Logis Apa yang dilakukan lelaki saat mengetahui kekasihnya selingkuh ? jawabnya, dia akan berpikir lebih logis. Tidak seperti perempuan yang cenderung ‘terintimidasi’ dan emosionil. Lelaki lebih logis dengan coba menelusuri penyebab perselingkuhan itu. Bagi perempuan, mudah untuk berkata “we’re done!” Perempuan cenderung emosionil dan mengenyampingkan logika. Perempuan tak ingin bertanya, “Aku enggak butuh penjelasan, semua udah jelas di depan mata aku,” begitu dalilnya. Kemudian si lelaki merasa tidak adil, karena mungkin saja dia tidak melakukan ‘apa-apa’. Lelaki akan menelusuri kenapa kekasihnya selingkuh ? jika bisa dimaklumi, dia tidak segan menerima dia kembali. Everything happen for some reason, and they’d time to hear our explanation. Lelaki tidak mudah berkata “we’re done !,” eits, tapi bukan berarti perempuan enggak punya toleransi ya. Tapi, umumnya aja. Namun, ada beberapa tipe lelaki yang ‘keperempuanan’ alias dengan mudah berkata Putus. Menghadapinya? girls, you cheat on hime, than he dumped you, wajar kan. Sebelum menjalani proses selingkuh, kamu pasti telah memikirkan masak-masak. Enggak mungkin main ‘jalan’ aja. Pasangan manapun pasti ingin masing-masing setia. Tidak ada perselingkuhan. Makanya, sebelum kalian terjebak lika-liku selingkuh, lebih baik belajar setia. Lelaki atau perempuan tidak suka diselingkuhin. Dan kemungkinan besar, bakal nyelingkuhin balik. Hayo, mau sampai kapan berada di lingkaran setan. Setia udah paling bener lah! kalo enggak cocok, ya putus. posted by anitahartono at 11:16 AM |
Monday, October 16, 2006
ISTRI CANTIK DAN JELEK DI MATA SUAMI kalo istri cantik ga sempet masak buat suami atau masakannya ga enak suami bilang: ndak papa sayang... kita makan di restoran aja yuk... kalo istri jelek ga sempet masak buat suami atau masakannya ga enak suami bilang: masakan kok sama tampang sama... sama2 ga enakh kalo istri cantik kebelet minta dibeliin mobil baru suami bilang: sabar ya sayang, nabung dulu... apa sih yang nggak aku beri buat kamu... kalo istri jelek kebelet minta dibeliin mobil baru suami bilang: kamu tuh... ga tau apa cari duit susah, minta aneh2 lagi kalo istri cantik lagi hamil tua lewat depan suami suami bilang: sayang... wanita itu kalu sedang hamil justru sexy lho kalo istri jelek lagi hamil tua lewat depan suami suami bilang: weleh... gentong jalan, ngapain sih mondar mandir aje kalo istri cantik ga mau nyuci pakaian suami bilang: ahhh kan ada pembantu dan mesin cuci, lagian ntar tangan kamu jadi kasar lho... kalo istri jelek ga mau nyuci pakaian suami bilang: dasar sok... nyuci pakaian aja ga mau... (sambil geleng2 kepala) kalo istri cantik lagi ngambek dan cemberut suami bilang: kamu biar cemberut gitu tetep keliatan manis kok Yang... kalo istri jelek lagi ngambek dan cemberut suami bilang: muka dari tadi dilipet ga dilipet juga sama aja... kalo istri cantik lupa bangunin suami untuk kerja suami bilang: kamu tidurnya nyenyak banget ya semalam, gapapa kok sekali2 aku telat kekantor... kalo istri jelek lupa bangunin suami untuk kerja suami bilang: Tidur apa pingsan... aku bakal kena marah boss nih gara2 kamu... kalo istri cantik dandan pake make up mahal suami bilang: kamu tambah cantik deh... I Love You kalo istri jelek dandan pake make up mahal suami bilang: dasar BUBOR... Ibu-ibu Boros...! kalo istri cantik kentut suami bilang: ga papa sayang... kl kentut di tahan2 bikin penyakit lho... kalo istri jelek kentut Suami bilang: bau tau ga...! ga ada sopan santunnya sama sekali kalo istri cantik ngajak plesiran ke Bali suami bilang: Bali is beautiful place Kalo istri jelek ngajak plesir ke bali suami bilang: alah... ancol aja kenapa yang deket!!! kalo istri cantik lagi sakit suami bilang: Sebentar lagi juga sembuh... kamu banyak istirahat ya kalo istri jelek lagi sakit suami bilang: wah... jangan2 bentar lagi nih... namanya juga umur kalo istri cantik pulang kerja lembur sampe malam suami bilang: kamu pasti lelah sekali malam ini... kalo istri jelek pulang kerja sampe malam suami bilang: Ngapain sih ngelembur2 segala sampe lupa masakin suami kalo istri cantik udah bbrp kali melahirkan suami bilang: ikutan senam di gym aja biar tetap bugar dan km tetap cantik kalo istri jelek udah bbrp kali melahirkan suami bilang: Tuh badan melar semua... ikutan senam sana tiap minggu pagi di halaman PUSKESMAS... “PS: sebagai pembelaan bagi kaum pria atas dimuatnya Email gender” : Beda Cowok Ganteng dan Cowok Jelek ======================================= kalo cowok ganteng berbuat jahat cewek-cewek bilang: nobody's perfect kalo cowok jelek berbuat jahat cewek-cewek bilang: pantes...tampangnya kriminal kalo cowok ganteng nolongin cewek yang diganggu preman cewek-cewek bilang: wuih jantan...kayak di filem-filem kalo cowok jelek nolongin cewek yang diganggu preman cewek-cewek bilang: pasti premannya temennya dia... Kalo cowok ganteng pendiam cewek-cewek bilang: woow, cool banget... kalo cowok jelek pendiam cewek-cewek bilang: ih kuper... kalo cowok ganteng jomblo cewek-cewek bilang: pasti dia perfeksionis kalo cowok jelek jomblo cewek-cewek bilang: sudah jelas...kagak laku... kalo cowok ganteng dapet cewek cantik cewek-cewek bilang: klop...serasi banget... kalo cowok jelek dapet cewek cantik cewek-cewek bilang: pasti main dukun... kalo cowok ganteng diputusin cewek cewek-cewek bilang: jangan sedih, khan masih ada aku... kalo cowok jelek diputusin cewek cewek-cewek bilang:...(terdiam, tapi telunjuknya meliuk-liuk dari atas ke bawah, liat dulu dong bentuknya)... kalo cowok ganteng ngaku indo cewek-cewek bilang: emang mirip-mirip bule sih... kalo cowok jelek ngaku indo cewek-cewek bilang: pasti ibunya Jawa bapaknya robot... kalo cowok ganteng penyayang binatang cewek-cewek bilang: perasaannya halus...penuh cinta kasih kalo cowok jelek penyayang binatang cewek-cewek bilang: sesama keluarga emang harus menyayangi... kalo cowok ganteng bawa BMW cewek-cewek bilang: matching...keren luar dalem kalo cowok jelek bawa BMW cewek-cewek bilang: mas majikannya mana?... kalo cowok ganteng males difoto cewek-cewek bilang: pasti takut fotonya kesebar-sebar kalo cowok jelek males difoto cewek-cewek bilang: nggak tega ngeliat hasil cetakannya ya?... kalo cowok ganteng naek motor gede cewek-cewek bilang: wah kayak lorenzo lamas di film Renegade...bikin lemas... kalo cowok jelek naek motor gede cewek-cewek bilang: awas!! Mandragade lewat... kalo cowok ganteng nuangin air ke gelas cewek cewek-cewek bilang: ini baru cowok gentlemen kalo cowok jelek nuangin air ke gelas cewek cewek-cewek bilang: naluri pembantu, emang gitu... kalo cowok ganteng bersedih hati cewek-cewek bilang: let me be your shoulder to cry on kalo cowok jelek bersedih hati cewek-cewek bilang: cengeng amat!!...laki-laki bukan sih? Kalo cowok ganteng baca e-mail ini langsung ngaca sambil senyum-senyum kecil, lalu berkata "life is beautiful" kalo cowok jelek baca e-mail ini, Frustasi, ngambil tali jemuran, trus triak sekeras-kerasnya "HIDUP INI KEJAAAAMMM....!!!" Huahuhua..i thought ini cukup relaxing dan menghibur bangettt!!! hahahaha.. posted by anitahartono at 2:52 PM |
Friday, October 13, 2006
A relationship coach lays out his 5 golden rules for reviewing the prospects of long-term marital success. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet,with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent (in USA), it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love." I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound not politically correct, there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You CANNOT build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. Here are 5 questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding & keeping a life partner. QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat & jog together? You need to share something deeper & more meaningful. You need a commonlife purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottom line - & marry someone who wants the same thing. QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings & thoughts with this person?! This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust- i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts & feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts & feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry. QUESTION #3: Is he/she a mensch? A menschis someone who is a refined & sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good & do the right thing." So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth & people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle. QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves & self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bellboys, taxi drivers, etc. How do they treat parents & siblings? Do they have gratitude & appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you-who can't do nearly as much for them! Do they gossip & speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well. QUESTION #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage .. for the worse!" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult & treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head & less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Unscientific Answers Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, and your voice caught within your chest? It isn't Love, it's Like. You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right? It isn't Love, it's Lust. Are you proud, and eager to show them off? It isn't Love, it's Luck. Do you want them because you know they're there? It isn't Love, it's Loneliness. Are you there because it's what everyone wants? It isn't Love, it's Loyalty. Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them? It isn't Love, it's Pity. Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand? It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident. Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat? It isn't Love, it's Infatuation. Do you pardon their faults because you care about them? It isn't Love, it's Friendship. Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of? It isn't Love, it's a Lie. Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake? It isn't Love, it's Charity. Does your heart ache and break when they're sad? Then it's Love. Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret? Then it's Love. Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are? Then it's Love. Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong? Then it's Love. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts? Then it's Love. But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you? Then it's Love. Would you give them your heart, your life, your death? Then it's Love. Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so, why do we Love? Why is it all we search for in life? This pain, this agony? Why is it all we long for? This torture, this powerful death of self? Why? Because it's....Love. posted by anitahartono at 10:43 AM |
Monday, October 02, 2006
Jika Perempuan Lebih ‘Mapan’ Pada hakikatnya, lelaki adalah pencari nafkah dan perempuan mengurus rumah tangga. Pada hakikatnya, lelaki lebih kuat dari para pria, karena wanita terbuat dari tulang rusuk lelaki. Lalu bagaimana kalau perempuan lebih mapan dari sang pria? Wajarkan kalo kecemburuan ‘sosial’ itu berujung ke putus hubungan? Ego lelaki, cemburu jika perempuannya lebih mapan. Baik secara karir maupun kehidupan pribadi. Kesenjangan ekonomi membuat mereka tidak nyaman dan merasa ‘tertindas’. Padahal bukan maksud kita. Posisi dikerjaan bagus, kenapa tidak? Kenapa mesti pasangan kita rewel? Namun, tidak semua pasangan gitu lho. Cowok ‘tradisional’ yang suka begitu. bagi kaum cowok, think twice lah. Masa kamu mau melepas cinta dengan alasan “dia lebih mapan?” itu lucu! Bukannya dengan begitu kelak kehidupan financial kalian lebih terjamin. Jadikan itu spirit untuk berbuat lebih. Giat bekerja, mencari penghidupan lebih baik. Please, jangan cemburu dengan perempuanmu. Lelaki masih berharga meski tidak semapan dia. Setangguh apapun perempuan, dia butuh lengan lelaki untuk bersandar. Tidak ada alasan untuk pergi. posted by anitahartono at 10:41 AM |
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